Monday, 28 February 2011

Sleep - and how to hopefully get more of it

I am joining in with a new Blog Carnival.  This one I found on Mellow Mummy and it is all about suggestions for getting your little one to sleep.

I am far from an expert (is there such a thing when it comes to children?!) but as a Mum of 4 I have done my fair share of sleepless nights and sleep training, so although I cannot guarantee results I have found the following routine helpful with my own children.....

Little Man aged 1 week

My second child was and still is to some extent unable to fall asleep without reading or listening to music and in some ways I blame myself for this as I did not really have a routine when it came to bedtime.

With the birth of Little Man (now 4 months old) I started a rountine from the day I had him, although some people may think that a little extreme I have suffered nights of no sleep and endless tears from afore mentioned daughter and I really would not wish it upon anyone.  It is quite amazing how the body so quickly stops functioning at full capacity with only the smallest lose of sleep let alone days/weeks/months.

From Day one I always put Little Man in his own cot (my second baby only feel asleep in my arms and always woke when put down - arrrgghh! ) this way I felt he would get used to his cot quicker and then being placed in it would not be such a shock.  I always try and place Little Man in the cot when he is still slightly awake also.

I play a soft gentle CD in the background, I would really recommend any of the Baby Einstein range - we like Baby Beethoven. As well as blocking other sounds in the house from Little Man it means I can leave the bedroom without him hearing my footsteps. As well as the CD I always close the curtains and put on the same low wattage bedside light - all this is done to give the same atmosphere when it is time to sleep and also should we need to go away overnight we can take the same items with us and it is then like home from home.

If baby does not settle when you leave the room, pause for a short time before going back in and re-settling, try not to give eye contact (I know hard when they are so cute) and do not speak to them unless maybe ssshhhh for reassurance. You may need to repeat these steps a few times but do persevere. As I say I have had a baby that really did not sleep and know how difficult it can be...

I am lucky as Little Man has slept through the night from 2 weeks old. Whether it is luck or the early establishment of a sleep routine I will never know but as I say it has worked for me. Please let me know if you have any success stories... and sweet dreams x

Friday, 25 February 2011

Five things I want my children to know about me and why....

As a parent we wear many faces, the Mother, the Confidante, the Nurse, The Chauffeur and many more but here are 5 things I want my children to know about me.....

1) I cherish every moment I spend with you and love you more than I can express in words (I know yeah right you're thinking - don't believe you!)

2)  There is almost nothing you can do that I haven't a) seen b) done, c) thought about doing, d) been caught doing  - I may be a parent but I have been your age also.

3)  I hope that you think of me as a Mother that listened, cared, laughed, tried and was firm but fair - I will know I did my job well if you do.

4)  I love you each in a different, unique way - you are all special, different and unique people after all.

5)  I am a person in my own right and although being your Mum is most important I also need friends, company, rest, time and a bit of me time now and then!!!

Pop over to Notes from Home to see other bloggers 5 things.......

Friday, 18 February 2011

Take notice of the small things.

I just wanted to write a short blog to remind myself in the future about this moment......

Some people are happiest when they can surround themselves with material belongings,
I need only the basic's but a little better basic's would be good....

Some people feel validated by what they represent to others,
I am happy with who I am and don't really worry what others say (in the end it's just one person's opinion)

Some people feel the need to belittle others to feel better about themselves,
I feel what goes around comes around.

Some people need a large bank account to feel rich,
I am lucky enough to feel rich in the company of my family and friends.

Right now, this moment, I am rich, my 3 smallest children are happily snoring in bed whilst my eldest and my husband happily banter while playing a game on the PS3 together. I smile inwardly at the small but significant warmth this makes me feel.  Take notice of the small things for when you add them to other small things they soon make something big xx

Tuesday, 15 February 2011

Blue Fresian cover star !!! Our competition win.

I was really pleased when I won a personalised magazine cover from the Blue Friesian on Facebook.

Having a young baby gives you the urge to put photos of them everywhere so this seemed a perfect way to do just that!.  I logged onto Blue Friesians website to see the choices and I have to say I was impressed.  The choice of magazine covers available suited all types of occasions and commemorative events from births, weddings to special holidays.  The prices were very reasonable also starting from £10.00.

Blue Friesian also offer personalised 8 or 12 page glossy magazines so you could cover a whole event in one special place - what a great gift for a newly married couple on their return from honeymoon or for a new Mum! The gift possibilities are endless.

I choose a 'Hallo' magazine cover.  The Blue Friesian software is user friendly as it prompts you for text at every stage it is needed. A pre filled magazine is there for guidance (and idea's) and the photo upload is quick, although I did have to resize my photos to fit the designated area.  Blue Friesian are looking to bring on board a facility next month that allows photos to be manipulated and cropped after uploading rather than before, and the ability to upload multiple photos at once to save in their library for use at any stage in your magazines creation. I feel this will only make the process better.

I can't wait to get the hard copy of my magazine in the post - hardest part will be deciding where it can be put for maximum exposure, although you can have a digital version of your magazine to print at home.

Go and have a look at their site and see what wonderful memories you can create.

Wednesday, 9 February 2011

Now that's what I call therapy!

Blogging in general has become almost a form of therapy for me.

Introduced to the idea by Wendy at Inside the Wendy House I was totally new to the concept and thought I would never get anything from it - Wrong!!  It is a place where I can express myself freely and in any style I choose with the theme left to my own decision - it is, in essence, free reign, something that is these days rare in most everyday formats.

I enjoy the ability to instantly be able to write down an event, thought or moment where it will be able to be re-read and re-lived in the future.  Photo's are precious to the process also, for they tell a story in an instant and can say something that otherwise would be perhaps missed in words.  I have learnt a lot about myself through my blogs and sometimes have been able to get something 'out of my head' by simply blogging about it - a like to think of it as online writing therapy.

Having suffered with depression in the past, my counsellor at the time suggested I write down my thoughts/fears/worries onto paper and then burn them. It is meant to allow you to be able to put the burden on to the paper and remove it from your head to be destroyed along with the paper it is written on -  I never did!  Blogging is my attempt at that (without the need for Swan Vesta's). In short getting it out on 'paper' is relaxing for me and so I will be doing a lot more of it - Why not try it yourself and see what you think?..........